Hello There,
This being my first blog entry I think I shall take a moment to introduce myself to the audience. My name is Cliff Legend, well not really but I think that it would be inappropriate for me to really divulge who I am because if you really know who I am then maybe you wouldn't be able to read this and get any substance or interest from it. I think that's a big flaw in how people operate, everyone is looking for the alterior motive in everyones actions, "where are people coming from?" Everyone wonders. I wonder if this began in the middle ages, when the Kings raised taxes did all the peasants say, "Shit dude, He probably is feeling lousy about himself so he needs to take it out on us. His wife put on like 14 pounds and he can't even get wireless service in the castle to watch sweet Dark Ages interweb porn." I doubt it. My theory is that this 'reading in between the lines' began when away messages started becoming prevelant. Anyone who's ever had a crush on someone in the digital age knows all about reading into away messages. "Aw Dude, shes using the quote from Dashboard Confessional" I recall myself thinking..."She must be sad about Something" and then that would translate to me or whomever I was consulting all torn up about something they may or may not have said to the girl in question. The worst was the disapearance tho. I can recall many many occasions being in the heat of a flirty conversation and saying something that was particularly clever or maybe a little bit of a boundry pusher of a joke and then all of a sudden shed be gone. It would go down like this
Hotchick653: You are sooo funnay, I Do wear that type of underwear
CliffLegend: Ha Ha, Maybe one day i could see that underwear on you LOL?
Then there would be like 2 minutes of silence
during which i would pace around, omg did i just offend her?
CliffLegend: Ha ha ha sooo
Then another 3 minutes would pass. I'd probably be sweating at this point.
CliffLegend: Hello???????????????
But then. As if a gift from God.
Hotchick653 is now considered idle
And Id be like PHEW, She just stepped away. But all this stress from not knowing what is going on really plays havoc on a 15 year old boys mind. And thus I began reading into what people are thinking.
Now-a-days, I, personally don't really sweat the AIM demons like that, my girlfriend is far too upfront about things. Which leads to a whole other set of issues. Example.
CliffLegend: Hey baby whats up? are you lookin Cute?
MsLegend653: Im soooooooo busy, so much work, Do Not Want homework. i do not have time for your sheninanigans
CliffLegend: Ha Ha, maybe one day I can see that underwear on you LOL
MsLegend653: OMG IM TRYING TO GET MY ULTRA DOCTORATE AND MY BOYFRIENDS A FUNCTIONING RETARD.
(Ms Legend is big on Caps lock.)
So this leads me into my 2nd point, how to know when to stop.
While I often break this rule, as exampled above, my girlfriend has to put up with me, it does not behoove the single female or male to press too hard with a person that they are interested in.
I present 3 simple rules to Always Be Smooth.
Rule 1. Listen, think of things that are interesting to Them and then get them talking about it. Me, for instance, I like to talk about how awesome I am, so a good way to get into my Michigan T shirt is ask a question like "Do you know anyone who is really awesome?" "Does your awesomeness come naturally or did you have to work at it?"
Rule 2. Don't talk shit about their friends unless they do it first. Never want to offend/alienate/harass someone as you are trying to court them and people are very defensive about their friends because they reflect directly on them in most cases. And just a helpful tip, if you hate someone you like's friends and they see something positive in them, maybe you are not as smart as you think you are mister.
Rule 3. Dont Jerk off when you're talking to someone online unless specifically asked to.
Seriously.
Soooo the same AIM conversation properly done would be
CliffLegend: Hey baby, what up, are you looking cute??
MsLegend653: Omg I am soooo busy, so much work, DO NOT want Homework, I do not have time for your sheninangians.
CliffLegend: Oh Im so sorry to hear that you feel that way, What type of work do you have? Is it for school?
MsLegend653: OMG IM TRYING TO GET MY ULTRA DOCTORATE AND MY BOYFRIEND IS A FUNCTIONING RETARD
(Should have noted that even if you follow the rules correctly if you're stupid they wont help you much.)
Anyway, I hope this is a decent start, I generally don't put out on a first date but hey. Maybe this blogging will turn into a quite decent career.
xoxo
C.Legend